And they often whipped her, leaving marks on her legs. There is no way to remove all danger from the world, so I must teach my child how to respond when danger occurs, whether it be by avoidance or screaming for his parents. Frequency and the emotion around it counts as well. But the causing of pain is wrong, not the getting them out of the street. In my experience, spanking is a copout. I am now an anti-social loner shut in with anxiety issues. Physical punishment should be a last resort, if you spank your kid all the time they will grow to resent you and it will ruin your relationship with your child!
My grandmother suggested the water trick; and the next time he did it, he got a large glassful of ice-water dumped all over his head. So, 5 spanks in 30 months averages 1 instance of physical discipline every 6 months when immediate physical danger was present. My cousin has a son who was well-known for his tantrums. It seems to be sticking, which is what we want anyway. Most children respond well to a smack across the face. I come home and my four year old doesnt listen unless he is yelled at.
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The comments are filled with rationalizing moms and dads. They went to their room and cried and man I felt so bad but I knew something had to be done once and for all. That said, is it always the best solution? Sadly, positive reinforcement takes a lot more effort and time, and many parents lack either one. The Forum is a free service, and much like the "free" content on Public Radio, we hope you will support WoodenBoat by subscribing to this fabulous magazine. Some test to the point that I think even Gandhi would have been tempted to give them a smack upside the head. Kind of a positive reinforcement thing.
My parents spanked me when I was younger and I turned out fine. Any study of the subject, pro or con, can only collect anecdotal evidence to form a conclusion. Anecdotes do count as information. Anonymous 2 years ago If the problem is still persisting now, sue her, get a divorce and full custody of your children. Your experience is the norm--that hitting your kids makes them more defiant, and adopting non-violent disciplinary methods dramatically reduces defiance, increases cooperation, teaches the child better self-control, and improves the parent-child relationship. The few times it was threatened my brother and I shaped up immediately. Also it was used only as a very last resort, usually I was grounded but if I continued the same poor behavior after multiple groundings…that was usually it and I admit it had the intended effect.